New Year, New Me? Why Resolutions Can Be Unhelpful

The New Year is often seen as a time for reinvention—a chance to set resolutions, pledge positive changes, and strive for a better version of ourselves. However, while these intentions may appear uplifting, they can sometimes harm our mental wellbeing.

New Year’s resolutions often carry an all-or-nothing mindset, framing success as binary: you either achieve your goal or you fail. This rigid outlook can negatively affect self-esteem and motivation if things don’t go as planned. With research showing that 90% of resolutions are abandoned, many by the first week of January, it’s clear that the tradition might not be setting us up for success.

Here’s why traditional resolutions often fall short:

Shame-Based Motivation: Resolutions frequently stem from self-criticism, particularly regarding weight, habits, or appearance. Shame is a poor motivator, undermining the self-compassion needed for meaningful change.

Pressure from Tradition: Many of us set resolutions because it’s what society expects, not because we feel ready or inspired. True, lasting change requires internal motivation, not external pressure.

Overly Ambitious Goals: Lofty, unrealistic resolutions can overwhelm rather than inspire. Breaking goals into smaller, manageable steps can make a real difference.

Lack of Flexibility: Resolutions often fail because we don’t plan for setbacks. Learning to practice self-compassion when obstacles arise is key to staying on track.

Additionally, resolutions tied to diet culture or weight loss often perpetuate negative messages about appearance and worth. This can trigger harmful behaviours or distress, especially for individuals with eating disorders or body image struggles. Instead, focusing on holistic wellbeing—such as movement for mental health benefits—offers a healthier approach.

A Positive Alternative

If you’re keen to set a goal, aim for one that nurtures both mind and body. Here are some examples:

“I will try to be more present in my daily life.”

“I will embrace the joy of movement without focusing on weight.”

“I will take steps to protect my mental health, like using my lunch break fully.”

Ultimately, resolutions should foster growth and self-compassion, not shame. Real change comes from patience, kindness, and flexibility—not a date on the calendar.  There’s always support available, so why not try www.lumii.me or www.lumii.life